The first time I met a life coach was back in 1998, I was 20 years old and a newly single parent of a 5 month old. I had just moved back to my home town after leaving an abusive relationship and was receiving assistance from the government in order to get back on my feet and set up a home and a life for myself and my baby. My social worker informed me that in order to receive financial assistance I would have to attend a Life Skills course which would help lead to a job opportunity.
What is a Life Skills Course
I had no idea what to expect at this course. Looking back, I remember 20 year old me thinking I certainly didn’t need someone to teach me life skills. I certainly didn’t need advice on how to take care of myself or my child. I was quite intelligent and more than capable but this course was mandatory so off I went to my first day. As I walked into the room I recognized a couple of familiar faces, two girls I’d gone to school with who also had kids already. There were 6 or 8 of us in the group altogether, ranging in age from 20 to 60+
We started that first day sitting in chairs that formed a circle and introducing ourselves. The first person to speak was probably in her 30’s, I don’t remember her name, but she would be our group leader for the next 8 weeks and she introduced herself as a Life Coach.
What is a Life Coach
According to an article in verywell mind, a life coach helps people make progress in their lives in order to attain greater fulfillment. Life coaches aid their clients in improving their relationships, careers and day to day lives.
I’d never heard of a life coach before then. I had no idea what it meant to have that job title but I remember being intrigued. This woman had such confidence in who she was and what she did. She also seemed to believe in all of us in that room more than we believed in ourselves.
I remember being 20 years old and thinking if I were to have a career, I think I’d want that to be it. But I had no career aspirations, all I wanted to do was raise kids. I wanted to be a stay at home parent, I had no desire to have a career. The problem was I had a child and no partner so I needed to work. So here I was sitting in this circle and for the next 8 weeks this life coach was going to equip us to be successful in society. As it turns out, that life skills course changed the trajectory of my life and not because I was able to get a part time job at the local grocery store after the 8 weeks was over. It changed my life because meeting this person opened my eyes to new ways of thinking about myself and the world I existed in.
Fast forward 20 years to my next experience with a life coach.
I was fresh out of a relationship, newly on testosterone and really trying to figure out who I was and who I wanted to be. I messaged a queer friend of mine who’s website promised to find one’s soul purpose and how to start living that path. I worked with this friend for a couple of months and found our short time together tremendously valuable.
I will forever have a Life Coach
I have a new life coach now and we meet twice a month to help me achieve my goals. I believe in the benefits of coaching so much that I will forever have my own life coach because I will always have goals I’m working towards and I believe in being future focused and living my most fulfilling life!
When you’re going through the hard growth there is nothing more valuable than going through it with someone who has wisdom, perspective and very sound judgment.
Are you looking for a Life Coach?
I can’t emphasize enough the benefits of having a life coach. I would recommend everyone find someone who will support them now and into their future. Contact me if you’d like to hear more about how I can help you get from a place of fear and uncertainty to being self assured with a bright future ahead and the path to get there clearly marked!