I don’t love or accept my child in spite of their being trans or even because they are trans. I just simply love and accept them. I deserve the same love and acceptance that I expect my trans kid to reap.
Why Visibility Matters
Visibility the state of being able to see or be seen. What Does it Mean to be Seen? As a later in life trans man, visibility is a complex issue. I want to be seen as the man I am, but also as the person (assumed woman) I experienced life as for nearly 40 years. …
What Do You Mean You Don’t Believe in Gender?
If you’ve visited my website you may have noticed that I am a transgender man who doesn’t believe in gender. How can I say that I am a transgender man and at the same time have the opinion that gender isn’t a real thing? Hmmm, 🤔 that’s an excellent question and perhaps by the end …
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Transitioning Later in Life
I am a 43 year old transgender man. I was 39 years old when I realized I was trans. Looking back there were so many signs but I didn’t understand what they meant. If you haven’t read any of my story yet, might I suggest starting here. As a trans man, I feel safer and …
Religion and its Contradictions
I have a complicated relationship with religion. Growing up I thought of God much like I did Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy. I was basically taught that some guy lived in the sky and as long as you were a decent human being you’d go to heaven once you died. It felt good to …
My First Three Months on Testosterone
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here, I recommend starting at the beginning of my journey. The moment I was asked Are you Trans? The early changes “Don’t let fear be the reason you don’t become your authentic self” As I mentioned in Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) within a day or two of my first …
My First Experience with a Life Coach
The first time I met a life coach was back in 1998, I was 20 years old and a newly single parent of a 5 month old. I had just moved back to my home town after leaving an abusive relationship and was receiving assistance from the government in order to get back on my …
Starting Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)
Welcome Welcome, if you’re new here you may want to start at the beginning of my journey. If that interests you, click here 😊 The day I received my prescription July 9, 2019, I’m sitting in my car holding a piece of paper I’d been waiting over a year for. Looking at the prescription in …
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What it means to be an ally
I have these friends, Chris & Melissa, who happen to pastor an evangelical church in my small conservative home town. They are an amazing couple who I became friends with through my old blog and after I was already out as trans. Chris and Melissa are the most real and genuinely accepting couple I’ve ever …
Meeting Carl
The first time I met a transgender person I was 35 years old, they were 3. It was a hot July day and we were getting ready to head down to the beach near our house. My curly haired child came bounding into the living room donning his younger brother’s lobster swim trunks and exuberantly …